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The COVID Times – What I’ve Learned

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Yeah – I get it. COVID has made this summer suck. Vacations cancelled. Weddings Cancelled. Graduations cancelled. Everything cancelled. Thanks COVID! The opportunities to share and celebrate with friends and family and enjoy your “normal” activities were severely reduced. I get it. I feel it too. BUT I learned a lot about myself and others through COVID mandated social distancing, small gatherings, cancellations, and closures. As a social person by nature who feeds off excitement and activity, isolation is literally my worst nightmare. Being cut off from everyone and everything was nearly trauma inducing for me in April. Then I got my head screwed on straight.

I took this time of isolation to learn and observe.

Skills

Baking

For more than 25 years I have tried to make sourdough bread. I’ve killed starters, made shitty versions of sourdough, and thought I was a lost cause. Then Friend Gemini gave me some of her starter. I thought, “I have nowhere to go and nothing to do. This is the perfect time to try again.” So, like most of the country, I started baking again. Using a book gifted to me by Friend Chris M, I began. First with no success, then with moderate success, and now a few months into attempts, I am having fairly good results. I finally learned a lot of what I was doing wrong with sourdough. My problems were multifold. Firstly, I didn’t know all of the “tricks”. I thought all sourdough was supposed to have that tang like “San Francisco Sourdough” NOPE! I wasn’t following the directions precisely because I thought I knew how to make bread. Being impatient, I was trying to rush the process. Lastly, I was treating sourdough like other breads, thinking it could be done in one day. NOPE! Sourdough takes way more time than I realized. It takes 3 fucking days! COVID taught me to slow down.  

 I also learned how to finally make great Cacio e Pepe – read about it here.

Initial and later attempts at creating artisan sourdough. Both are with spent grain from the Hubs’ brewing

Sewing

I have always been in awe of Martha Stewart – that bitch can do anything! So, I decided I wanted to learn to sew. I had made crafts before, but now I wanted to sew garments. Well, of course no one is teaching classes right now, so it was up to me to teach myself. Thankfully, Friend Jeanie is a master seamstress, so I could call her and ask for advice. Friend Janet has been sewing for years and taught me some tricks too. And even though I had bought fabric and patterns, the mere idea of creating a garment made me break out in a cold sweat. “I have nowhere to go and nothing to do. This is the perfect time to try again.” So I did. I have made 3 dresses! I made a bunch of masks from scrap fabric that I had laying around from craft projects – those were easy. My problems with sewing in the past have been multifold as well. I am impatient…again…and want the results YESTERDAY! Because the crafts came together so easily and quickly, I thought garments would as well. NOPE! I didn’t know all the lingo or how to read a pattern. And being a novice, I was choosing patterns and fabrics “out of my weight class”. COVID taught me to slow down.

Teaching

Sister Nancy wanted me to teach her how to cook online through live videos. I was hesitant to try, but jumped into it because I love my sister. I learned A LOT doing this for/with her. There is a LOT that goes into a live demo, and I knew some of that having done over 1000 in my lifetime, but this was different. I had to look at a camera, talk to a virtual audience, and describe things more fully than if people were there in person. I learned how to “go live” on Facebook and how to transfer the videos over to YouTube. You can watch all the recipes on my YouTube channel*. What I also learned is that while I don’t think I am fast…I kinda am. And when teaching others via live video, it was hard for some folks to keep up. COVID taught me to slow down.

What I RE-Learned About Myself

  • I really like to read trashy novels – not romances, just stuff that I don’t have to think too hard about
  • Cooking is comfort for me
  • I love to travel…and I get cranky when I can’t “get away” for a few days
  • Planning anything (travel, parties, get-togethers, etc.) makes me happy and gives me something to look forward to doing.
  • When I don’t have anything to look forward to, depression sets in
  • Depression BLOWS!

What I Observed About Myself:

  • I have far more patience with myself than I realized – sewing illustrated that for me
  • I have far less patience for other people’s bullshit than I ever dreamed possible
  • Never underestimate the power of a good hug.
  • I never realized how spoiled I truly am.
  • If I put my mind to it, I can do nearly anything
  • I am more of an introvert than I thought
  • Masks hide my resting bitch face
  • I enjoy peace & quiet with no one talking to me
  • I don’t enjoy gardening as much as I used to
  • Don’t take the company of others for granted

What I Learned About Others

  • No matter what you do, someone will always be there to criticize you
  • Tempers become VERY short, when people are cooped up
  • People really don’t understand science
  • Isolation makes everyone react differently
  • Isolation allowed people’s true colors to shine through. Some good. Some not so good.
    • “When someone shows you who they are believe them”
  • Some people can’t read a “one way” sign
  • A person can remain calm, PEOPLE panic

*(shameless plug – subscribe to my YouTube channel, linked above, so you get all the video content. When new videos are posted, you’ll get notified so you can watch them whenever it’s convenient for you). Even better – if you want to cook along live with me when the videos are created, you can follow me on Facebook at Good for Spooning. Same handle on Instagram to see everything I am eating!

Covid 19 – What to do Under Quarantine

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Allow me to be a whiner for a little bit and then share some cool shit with you.

I am a social person and COVID 19 (not the “Chinese Virus” as the Asshole in Chief keeps saying) has me missing my social-ness. I hug my friends with a kiss on the cheek when we meet up and say goodbye the same way. These days we barely touch each other. And I like to get out and do things, but of course literally every damn thing in Vegas is closed. It’s almost like when I was a teenager in upstate New York. Our nearest neighbor was a quarter of a mile away, we lived out in the country with nothing to do and nowhere to go.

I can draw a direct line in my head to growing up in a rural area and this COVID 19 situation. There are a LOT of parallels. You see, we didn’t have money when I was a kid. We “made do” with every damn thing. We grew our own veggies, Mom canned everything she could (it was a sight to behold). Yes, we qualified for free lunch. No, there wasn’t always enough to go around, but Mom did the best she could. Because of the way NOT having made me feel as a child, in my adult home I start to get a little twitchy if I can see the shelves of my fridge or pantry. If my freezer has space, I start looking for sales to fill it up (or start looking to share butchery of a whole or half animal with friends). This minor paranoia has served me well in the past weeks. I was already a hoarder of frozen and shelf stable food, so I didn’t need to freak the hell out and run to the store. As long as I have fresh produce, I am good to go for at least 3 weeks.

The major problem right now for me is “social distancing”. Cooking is stress relief for me, but The Hubs  and I have been learning to eat more healthfully in order to reduce our weight (combined we have lost 100 lbs). With our eating habits changed, and not being able to “throw a party”, I have no one to cook for. I have no one to feed. And frankly folks, all I want to eat right now are comfort foods


COVID 19 has me feeling some sorta way

We are all feeling it one way or the other. I am a little stir crazy like many of you. Ya know, like kids in the midst of summer break from school whining, “I’m bored!” Like being stationed at “Boring Loring” during a blizzard (only I have electricity).

Enough with the fucking whining! There are people out in our world that are more than just “bored”. They are out of work and trying to figure out how to pay the bills, feed their kids, and get through ALL of this without knowing when they WILL be allowed to work again. There are first responders that are being pushed to the limits because they CAN’T stay home. They are worrying about bringing illness into their homes. They are worried about so much more than “being bored”.

In case you didn’t know, my chosen hometown of Las Vegas is driven by the hospitality and travel industries. Many of my friends and I are feeling the impact directly in the form of closures, layoffs, reduction in hours, cancelled conventions, cancelled trips, etc. due to COVID 19. Then there are the friends and family members who work in “essential” businesses like medical care, grocery stores, first responders of all stripes, family and child protective services who have no option to “shelter in place”. They still gotta get out there and do their jobs to help ALL OF US get through this.

There are always people willing to help - just look for them

We all want to help. We want to help our friends hang on to their businesses and support them in times of trouble. We all want to be safe and help others be safe. But, in these uncertain times, HOW best to help is the big question.

Suggestions on how you can help during the days ahead with COVID 19 :

  • Volunteer at your local food bank. Here in Vegas, Three Square needs help to support their more than 1000 community partners get food into the hands of folks who need it. They continue to provide services during this time. Check them out HERE to register as a volunteer and find out more about how you can help.
  • Support your local Mom & Pop restos that are offering take out. Why go through the drive thru of a chain that will most assuredly bounce back from this when you can put the money directly into the hands of one of YOUR community members? In Vegas, check out this list compiled by Eater. Eater also has lists for other major cities, so check those out if you live elsewhere. Also check out this list from Las Vegas Weekly for more info. There are plenty of places all over the valley to choose from.
  • Offer to shop for someone who is immuno-compromised, elderly, or has their hands full with kids home from school. You can also call friends and ask them what they need if you are heading to the store anyway. That makes for less congestion and fewer people in line.
  • Choose online ordering for groceries and cleaning products with home delivery or curb side pick-up. Expect delays, so think ahead. *
  • Wash your hands METHODICALLY and sing a song while you are at it.
  • Don’t be a fucking hoarder. EVERYONE needs the same shit you do. Think of your fellow humans and how you will feel if you NEED something and it is sold out in every store. Take only what you NEED. Supply chains are still running, and stores continually are refilling their shelves. Thank the heavens for grocery store workers!
  • While shopping, if you see the WIC symbol and you CAN make another choice, think about doing so. WIC has very strict guidelines on what their recipients can and cannot purchase. WIC feeds pregnant and nursing mothers, and infants and children up to 5 years of age. Again, don’t be a fucking hoarder.
Just look for the WIC symbol and make a different choice if you CAN.

Things you can do for your own mental well-being during quarantine. Relieve some stress with these activities:

  • Plant some seeds and watch them grow. In a 30 day “lockdown” most seeds will germinate and start to provide you with visual enjoyment. In the case of herbs and veggies, you’ll know that you have something good to eat coming to your table soon. This is great with your kids.
  • Take a walk in the fresh air or ride your bike.
  • Have an online Happy Hour with friends via Zoom, Skype or some other online conferencing service.
  • Call your family or chosen family to check in.
  • Use those cookbooks you have! Try a new recipe from your Instant Pot, or a vintage cookbook or that celeb chef cookbook that you have been too busy to crack open.
  • Play a game of “Chopped – COVID 19 Version” using ONLY the ingredients in your pantry/fridge. Have your S/O or roommate choose 5 ingredients and make a dish that contains all of them and standard pantry staples and your spice cabinet. If you need inspiration or advice consult your cookbook shelves! The time limit is up to you. Challenge yourself to NOT use the internet to find a recipe – use what’s in your house and your own creativity.
Try and have a little fun in the kitchen to relieve the stress.
  • Learn a new game. Learn to play bridge or some other classic card game and make yourself feel all retro and shit! You can also play some of your faves, like Cards Against Humanity, ONLINE!
  • Learn a new skill or craft – sewing, crocheting, cooking, anything to keep your hands and mind busy.
  • Purge your closet. Try on every damn thing you own and if you still love it and it fits well, keep it. Donate everything else to charity.
  • Clean out the junk drawer in your kitchen…I really gotta get on this one!
  • Read all the books you have been putting off, or pick up a BIG series like Outlander. 
  • Bonus to choosing Outlander? It gets you ready to binge watch the series!
  • Binge watch your wish list of shows that you haven’t made time for yet.
  • Cuddle your pets. They are probably feeling your anxiety and need a little reassurance too.
  • Wash your damn hands.
  • Challenge yourself to empty the freezer. YOU KNOW you have unlabeled things in your freezer. That leftover tomato sauce, that soup you forgot all about, etc. Thaw out one or two things a day and if they are edible, make use of them. You can even turn it into a family game of “guess what this is” before it thaws out or “how can we re-purpose these leftovers”.
  • Here is a list of 100 things to do from USA Today
  • And lastly – practice an attitude of gratitude. There is ALWAYS a reason to be grateful. You have a roof over your head? Food in your house? Friends and family that love you and are healthy? A child’s laughter? A beautiful sunrise? Just take a moment to be grateful. I promise it will make you feel better.

Footnote – * the links to the grocery and cleaning product delivery services are unique to me and I DO receive a referral fee if you sign up.

Lessons From My Mother

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Years ago while living in Chicago suburbs, I met a young woman named Louise Rowley (pronounced Ro-lee) from Ireland.* She was visiting American cousins and she and I hit it off and we started a friendship while she was in the states. One night, on our first foray into the city itself, while down on Rush Street we went into the ladies’ room and from my stall I shouted, “Louise! Don’t sit on the seat!” She shouted back, “Oh my God! My Mom said the same thing!” Across the “pond” two mothers who had never met gave their daughters the same advice. It got me to thinking…

As I just turned 55, I am thinking about all the little things she taught me. You know, those small, and seemingly insignificant things, that shape the way we do some everyday things. As I began to compile this list in my head, I giggled frequently, and I hope you do too. Some of these will hopefully make you think of your own Mom because some are universal, as illustrated by the anecdote with Louise. If you know my Mom, I hope you read these with her voice and facial expressions in your mind.

On Dining Out

Family Meal
Bryan Voltaggio’s Fried Chicken
  • Choose something from the menu that you can’t get at home.
  • If you aren’t sure which fork to use, look at everyone else.
  • Always put your napkin in your lap.
  • Don’t be rude to the waitress, it’s rarely her fault.
  • Chicken Soup is Jewish Penicillin and Wonton Soup is Chinese Penicillin. They will both make you feel better.
  • Don’t dine with people who aggravate you. You will only end up with heartburn.
  • Always tip well. Waitresses work their asses off (Mom & I were both waitresses).

On Restrooms

  • Don’t sit on the seat! You might catch something!
  • Never pass up an opportunity to pee.
  • Hospital restrooms are the filthiest because all the people in there are sick. Don’t go unless you can’t hold it!
  • Always wash your hands.

On Cooking

Build a flavor ladder when you cook.
These are the prepped ingredients. from Top left: Pecorino Romano, juice of one lemon, Anchovy Paste, zest of one lemon, garlic mashed into a paste, finely diced shallot
  • This is what’s for dinner. Like it or lump it.
  • This is not a restaurant; you will eat what’s put in front of you.
  • Don’t overwork your pie crust. It’ll end up being tough.
  • Use your leftovers. There are people starving in China.
  • If you overcook your meat it will be as tough as a hockey puck.
  • The Hotaling Farm has the best corn.
  • Shop local for the best produce. Farm stands are great.
  • If you don’t cook, your kitchen will always be clean.
  • The best thing to make for dinner is reservations.

On Clothing

  • Always wear clean underwear. You might be in an accident.
  • Always WEAR underwear!
  • Pantyhose suck. Stockings sucked too, but if you got a run in ONE leg, you didn’t have to throw out both.
  • Never tuck in your shirt because your ass is too big for that.
  • If you wear something too tight you may end up looking like a sausage stuffed into a casing.
  • Girdles are awful, but they work.
  • I have a uniform – black and white – it goes with everything and is almost always appropriate.
  • Don’t wear red to a funeral. The only acceptable colors are black, navy, or grey.
  • Diamonds are a girl’s best friend. You can never have too much bling!
  • A lady never takes her shoes off in public. Never.

On Life

  • Anything boys can do, girls can do better.
  • No one is going to help you but you.
  • Suck it up!
  • Quit your belly achin’!
  • Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something because you are a girl. Girls can do anything!
  • You never know what you are going to see on a road trip.
  • People will do just about anything if no one is looking.
  • Dance every chance you get.
  • Sing in the car.
  • If someone doesn’t have a sense of humor, get away from them. They probably suck.
  • Honesty is the best policy, even if it hurts someone’s feelings. They’ll thank you later.
  • Stand up straight and don’t “plop” yourself on the couch. Sit like a lady.
  • If you keep your legs crossed you can’t get into trouble.
  • If it’s not half off, it’s not on sale.
  • Share, Share. That’s fair.
  • SPS – Self Praise Stinks
  • Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one and they all stink.

If you have been following along for a while now, you’ll notice that I have had a serious case of writer’s block due to some major life changes. Life changes also mean that this site is changing. It will be more about life, travel, AND YES, FOOD. I hope you like the new design so far.

Stay tuned for the “Best Things I Ate” post coming soon. It really won’t be what you think this year.

In case you are wondering, after our trip to Egypt this past spring (you can read about it here and here and here) I decided to join the travel industry. I figured if I am going to travel, I want a kickback! You will see more posts on Facebook and “the ‘Gram” about travel and the food I enjoy while out in the wide world. DO give me a holler if you need to plan a trip. I’d love to help you make some memories!

A little help here:

*I have since lost track of Louise. We met before the age of internet (1986), Facebook, and even cell phones. She grew up in County Kildare at Suncroft the Curragh. I’d love to reconnect with her if any of you readers have connections there!

Gift Guide – Holiday 2019 – Shop NOW

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An apology and an explanation

If you have been following along, you will notice that I haven’t posted a lot this past year. For my loyal readers – especially you folks who have been with me from the very beginning – I am truly sorry. The death of my father last fall hit me a lot harder than I thought it would and, like a novelist I know, caused me to have writer’s block and a complete lack of desire to post anything. My goal is to do better in 2020.

And now for some good news and a gift

The good news is many fold! First, my website is undergoing a redesign, so keep checking back for new images, a new look, and better accessibility (You will notice that pesky double header is now gone – fuckin’ A!). Also, because I love to travel (and eat), I joined the travel industry, so you will be seeing A LOT more here about where to go and what to do (like my Egypt blogs and my Europe blogs from two years ago). When you decide you need a vacation, I do hope you will think of me first when planning.

On top of all that, this is my annual Gift Guide for the foodies in your life. Of course, you will find cheeky things and useful things, and a book written by someone I know personally (in fact, I went to High School with him). I was delighted to receive many of these as gifts myself. Some were found while I was browsing. All are items I’d love to give or receive. Without further ado, here is my guide on what to get that person in your life who loves to cook, eat, or entertain.

Be sure to bookmark these pages and hit them up on Black Friday and Cyber Monday for your gift giving. Many are having sales that you won’t want to miss!

Gray Kunz Damascus Patterned Plating Spoon – $35

Gray Kunz Damascus Patterned Plating Spoon - for a gift that always gets used!

In a previous gift guide, I included the Rose Gold spoon which was gifted to me by dear Friend Nanette. I love it and use it ALL the time. This one has the same dimensions and beautiful manufacturing, but with a little pizzazz on the handle. Bonus – it comes in a perfectly giftable box for easy wrapping. Get on the list NOW because they sell out quickly.

Soulful Harvest cookbook by Chef Tim Grandinetti – $50

Soulful Harvest Cookbook by Chef Timothy Grandinetti - A cookbook is the gift that keeps on giving in the form of deliciousness!

If you live in Winston-Salem, you are lucky! You can enjoy Chef Tim’s food at either Spring House or at Quanto Basta any time you choose. I have known Tim for more than 30 years and he is an exceptional talent in the kitchen. In fact, he gave me my first job as a culinarian and event manager. And for that I am truly grateful. The pictures are gorgeous, the recipes are well written and span everything from comfort food to “fancy” all with a Southern twist. And don’t forget to read the stories! They really give you a feel for who Chef Tim is. Hey, Hudsonians…this one’s for you! To order, click here.

Black Walnut Lame – $35

Black Walnut Baker's Lame - It's a gift a baker doesn't know they want.

Do you have a baker on your list? This is a fantastic gift for a lot of reasons. First, it is gorgeous. Second, it is something every baker needs, but probably buys the $10 version because they won’t splurge on themselves. Because it has replaceable blades, it is a better environmental choice too. And what King Arthur doesn’t know about baking, I don’t need to know. Wooden gift box included AND made in the USA. What more could you ask for?

Ruth Bader Ginsburg Tea Towel – $22

RBG Towel - I know at least a dozen people on my gift list that need this and they don't even know it yet.

If you know me at all, you know I am a feminist and that I love RBG. Thankfully she is literally everywhere these days including on these cheeky towels and so much more. When shopping here, don’t stop at this towel! The site is LOADED with fun gifts for the political activist who enjoys cooking and eating. Suffragettes, RBG, and Harriet Tubman are all featured on totes, aprons, tea towels (that’s a dish towel for us Americans).

St. Anthony Candle – $16

St. Anthony Bourdain Candle - the perfect gift for that someone who has EVERYTHING!

I adore all things Bourdain. This needs no explanation. If the candle is sold out, don’t panic! There are also mugs, totes and other fab items to choose from!

Made In Nonstick Frying Pans

Made In Cookware - the perfect gift for that special someone on your list that LOVES to cook.

Slick interior, great weight, comfortable handle, and made in the USA. Oh, and did I mention that all 3 sizes are under $100 each? The 8” ($75) is perfect for eggs and the 10” ($85) and 12” ($99) are amazing for everything else. There is so much to love about this pan, but supporting USA made products that are created with care in a small independently owned company tops my list. Be sure to check out the other items in their product line. Last year the 10” French made Blue Steel Pan made this list.

Gift Guide for Foodies – 2018 Holiday Edition

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It’s that time of year again – Gift-mas. That time when you KNOW you have to get ready for the gifting season and you are stumped on what gift to actually give. I’ve got you covered! Most of the items on this list are from small manufacturers or small businesses, local artists, and one is a new book, just released, by a friend of mine. Let’s dig in! Be sure to read through to find a  coupon code and info for ordering online to save you the hassle of driving around. Check websites for details on Hanukkah and Christmas delivery cut off dates. You are welcome. Also – wait until “Cyber Monday” to order online for offers that may be available that day only.

The Tailgate Cookbook

Tailgate Cookbook by Beth Peterson

Written by pal Beth Peterson – get your tailgate on!

This is the perfect gift for the tailgating fanatic on your gift list! Loaded with tried and true recipes from my pal Beth Peterson (former World Food Champion), this book is sure to be a hit with all of the football fans on your list. Even if you dislike football (like me) the recipes are sure to make you the “host with the most” for any get-together. $19 on Amazon – Paperback format only.

This Blue Carbon Steel Frying Pan

Beautiful Blue Carbon Steel pan by Made In

Blue Carbon Steel is the love child of cast iron and stainless steel and THIS pan at just $69 is the perfect gift for the home cook who is ready to go to the next level. With better heat conductivity than stainless and the superb searing properties of cast iron without the weight, this is a game changer for the budding chef or expert home cook. You season this pan like you would cast iron to get non-stick properties (don’t worry – instructions are included and there is video on their site). While you are at the site, check out their entire line. The majority of their line is made in Austin, Texas, but this pan and a few other things are made in France. $69 Pre-order now for shipping on the first of December.

Funky Jewelry

Twisted Fork Bracelet by MarcelloArt on Etsy

If you have ever seen me in person, chances are I was wearing this bracelet. I have a love of all repurposed silverware so this made a perfect gift for me. If you have a gal on your list that is tough to shop for, this might just be the perfect gift. I even wear it in the kitchen. Because it is silver and there are no stones to fall out, no clasp to come undone, it works just as hard as I do. There are several retailers on Etsy, so check them out. This image from MarcelloArt on Etsy Pictured item $30, but prices vary depending on design.

Tasting or Saucing Spoons

Hangry Stamped Spoon by Sky Metal Designs on Etsy

Photo from Sky Metal Designs on Etsy – link above

These make fab stocking stuffers and you can get customized ones (like the Hubs bought me a few years ago) or any of several designs that are commercially available. Check out these two sites for some great gift ideas. Friend Nanette bought me a rose gold saucing spoon from Gray Kunz that I love (pictured). Prices vary. Gray Kunz Spoon available at JB Prince. Stamped tasting spoon available at Sky Metal Designs on Etsy.

Rose Gold saucing spoon available at JB Prince

Photo from JB PRince – link above

Time – yes, you can buy itKitchen Timers available on Amazon - give the gift of time

Most microwaves and ovens have timers on them, but what do you do when you need more than one? These handy little guys are magnetic, so you can stick them to the fridge. With count up and down features, they are great for recipe development (seeing how long something ACTUALLY takes to cook) or timing anything on the stove top, smoker, grill, or in the oven. In a set a three, you can keep one and gift two or give them all as a gift together for that “time challenged” person. $14 on Amazon

The Gift of Flavor – Raw Spice Bar Spices

Raw Spice Bar Global Spices Starter Set $78 on their website - give the gift of flavor

Global Spices Starter Set- as pictured $78. Photo from their website

 

No more bland food. No stale spices and herbs. Raw Spice Bar has fresh and flavorful spices, herbs, and spice blends to help you! The gift sets are a treat for anyone who loves to experiment. The individual spices and seasonings are perfect for replenishing your own pantry or creating your own gift set or gift basket. Get your orders in now for holiday gift giving and holiday cooking in your own kitchen. I am officially in love with their Poultry Seasoning and their Apple Pie Spices. Pro Tip- when making pumpkin pie, using your regular recipe, add all the spices volumes together (e.g. 1 Tbsp cinnamon, ½ tsp nutmeg, ¼ tsp cloves, ½ tsp ginger = 1 Tbsp + 1¼ tsp total) and sub that volume of Raw Spice Bar Apple Pie Spices for a balanced and slightly different take on your pumpkin pie. Bonus for all of my readers from Raw Spice Bar – 10% off your total order through 31 December when you use the coupon code  goodforspooningspices!  Prices vary.

 

 

Bucket List and Firsts

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I began writing this piece before my last post about Anthony Bourdain and his death. Since then I have been trying to find ways to verbally express my joy and it has escaped me. When I tell you in person about this trip, you can see the fun in my face, but writing my joy has been a challenge. I do hope you enjoy this, because it was a great day!

Life got Thrown at Me…HARD

Sorry I have been incommunicado for ages, but life got thrown at me…HARD. It’s been several months of traveling and events and FIRSTS. Of course I have been sharing the delish things I have been eating, and if you missed any of those, you can follow along on Instagram or Facebook to see what I am posting when I am not writing.

I’ve been to festivals, been a judge for the culinary portion of Motley Brews Great Vegas Festival of Beer, attended a birthday celebration with an absentee honoree, attended three weddings, had my house painted and pool resurfaced, had high school friends visit, went to Seattle, and so much more. With all of THAT going on, you’d think I had stuff to write about, and I do, but couldn’t make/find the time, or find my joy in writing.

Photo by Michelle Grace Photography
Dancing at my nephew’s wedding with the Hubs.

 

I Suggest You Start a Bucket List

If you haven’t started one for yourself, I suggest you start a “bucket list”. Like the movie, but without Nicholson’s character’s bank account, I started my bucket list a few years ago, and I add to it and scratch stuff off as I experience or do an activity. My bucket list is nearly 50 items long and I figure the bucket list will grow as I find new things I want to experience. Some are off the charts crazy. Like “have my picture taken by Annie Leibovitz”. Others are pretty down to earth, like “drive the length of Route 66”.

The one I was able to scratch off the bucket list this week was “deep sea fishing” thanks to my BIL Walter. I have never enjoyed lake or stream fishing because you are supposed to be quiet and not scare the fish. If you know me at all, you know I have trouble keeping quiet, so those activities are not for me. However, with deep sea fishing of the trawling type that we did, the motor makes so much noise that my talking isn’t an issue. Basically, you cast the line off the back of the boat, and then motor the boat thru the water. The lure and bait jump about in the wake of the boat to catch the attention of the prey. In our case, the prey was dolphin fish (aka Mahi Mahi or Dorado depending on where you are located). When the fish bite, the line starts to spool out FAST and that’s when the excitement begins.

Friend Steve helpfully skinned, cleaned and filleted the catch faster than I could have ever done, and that night we enjoyed fresh Mahi ceviche and grilled fish tacos with all the classic accompaniments.  And of course there are no pics of that either.

A few things to note here:

  • I was so excited, and there was such an adrenaline rush when pulling the fish in that I took NO pics or video of Walter’s efforts. I was truly living in the moment and only thought of the potential for great copy for the blog AFTER the fact. Sometimes living in the moment is the way to go.
  • I spotted the lines spooling out (which meant there was a fish on the end) and Walter did all of the reeling in. And a good thing too! The second fish we caught was over 25lbs and jumped a full 3 feet out of the water at one point. Walter had to get down on one knee and lean way back to get that fish on the deck. Had I tried to do it, that fish would have pulled me into the water.
  • Never before in my life had I experienced sea sickness on a small boat – cruise ships yes, but never on a small boat. That has changed. As soon as the boat stopped moving so we could reel in the fish, my stomach did not cooperate. There were 3 episodes and I powered through them like a champ, chumming the water and begging to keep going. Yes…really. After the third round, Walter called the fight and we went back to shore.
  • I had such a good time that I can’t wait to go back and do it again with Walter! But this time I am taking my seasickness meds!

Lately I have spent a LOT of time living in the moment. Putting my phone down, not posting and sharing and just LIVING my life. I attended the sold out Vegas Unstripped event and I didn’t take a single picture. I went to Hopped Taco and the only pics I took show up on my Instagram account. When  my friends were here, I took virtually no pics of our time together. I know it is self defeating, but I am trying to truly live in the moment.

Depression, Suicide and Anthony Bourdain

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(cover photo from www.Explorepartsunknown.com)

As I sit here in my sister’s bright Florida kitchen, I am reading the news about Anthony Bourdain. I am shocked and saddened, as I would be at any suicide. But this one hits particularly hard for me because I too have fought depression and addiction.

I WAS the “waitron” Bourdain Wrote About

When I read Kitchen Confidential several years ago I laughed at the funny parts, just like everyone else, but that book went a LOT deeper for me. As I read it I felt like we were separated at birth, because so many of his experiences mirrored my own. Not all of them to be sure, but many of them. Grubby kitchens, being put in my place by long time workers, putting rookies in their place once I became the “old guard”, on some days I WAS the “waitron” he wrote about. And then there were the episodes of showing up to work high, snorting coke in the bathrooms, being hungover or drunk, or both, and working any way.

Like Chef Bourdain, I fought addiction – my drug of choice was cocaine. Becoming addicted was easy. My boss gave it to me because I worked well when I was high. He would literally line it up for me in the locked employee bathroom and hand me the key. I never once paid for my drugs and that made the addiction even easier. As a cocktail waitress in the ‘80’s, people would HAND IT TO ME AS A TIP. I didn’t realize how bad I had gotten until my then boyfriend, now husband of nearly 31 years, told me, and I quote, “I love you, but you can’t have your drugs and me. You have to make a choice.” That was March 20th (coincidentally, my Dad’s birthday) 1987. I haven’t done cocaine since then. And believe me, there were early ­days of my being clean that I wanted nothing more than to get high. Each day I walked away from it, the walking away became easier and I barely think of those days now.

There Are Days When I Have to Fight the Urge to Kill Myself

Like Chef Bourdain, I have fought depression all of my adult life. I have been in counseling three times. I tried a slew of different meds and none of them worked. They all, without exception, ended up being tossed out. Most of them got tossed because they made me feel like a zombie or a visitor in my own skin. I felt nothing; no depression, but no joy either. So I fight my depression in my own way, with the help of trusted friends and my family. There are days I have to talk myself off the ledge. There are days when I have to fight the urge to kill myself. The things that have stopped me have been my husband and my son. And wondering who would find me. And who would have to clean it all up. So each day I have to wake and tame the dragon of my darkest thoughts and continue on. And I do. Some days the fight is hard and when I WANT to be alone and I know I shouldn’t be alone, I call a friend. These are coping skills I have developed that work for me, but everyone is different.

Remove the Stigma of Depression

The death of this gifted storyteller, amazing raconteur, honest and talented writer, chef, and public personality has really shaken me. I have never publicly shared this candid and raw picture of myself. I am doing it for one reason and one reason alone. If you, or someone you know, is fighting for their literal life with depression, reach out. Help them. Lend and ear or a hand. Because I fight my own dragon, I can’t always be there for the ones nearest and dearest to me, but when I have my dragon chained up, I help when I can. Suicide is often preventable, but it is up to us to remove the stigma of depression, to not think less of someone seeking help, and to not marginalize mental health.

For more information go to the International Association for Suicide Prevention

If you need HELP – call the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-TALK

That Damned Instant Pot Craze!

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Moment of Truth – I am NOT an “early adopter”. Of anything. I wait it out. I listen to others’ commentary, successes and failures. I read reviews online. I read articles, and I research. So when this Instant Pot craze started a couple of years ago, I waited. One person I know sent theirs back. One person I know let it sit and gather dust before actually using it. And several people told me they couldn’t live without their Instant Pot. I was mainly interested in trying it out because I am curious about pressure cooking and I’d heard RAVES about how fast, efficient, safe, and easy pressure cooking was in the Instant Pot. And frankly, after listening to some wild stories about pressure cooker explosions I was scared to death to use my stove top model. Novice cooks and intermediate skilled cooks were getting awesome results and a few of my chef pals weighed in and said they loved theirs too. Needless to say, I didn’t want to BUY one just to find out if it lived up to the hype. In late October I borrowed Friend Kristie’s Instant Pot. She told me, “I suppose I can live without it for a week, but no longer,” those were her exact words. That comment intrigued me. How can one appliance become so indispensable to a household? I was about to find out.

Just to give it a quick run through, I decided to make some lamb stock (using the “soup” setting) because I had bones in the freezer. All kidding aside, it was fucking amazing! No worrying about the stock coming to a boil and ending up cloudy, no skimming and constantly watching the pot. And what normally took a couple of hours was reduced to about an hour including my prep time. A fluke perhaps? Next I made fish stock, again because I had the stuff on hand. Same damn results! Crystal clear stock in a fraction of the time, nearly completely hands off.

So…in early November I bought myself an Instant Pot 10 in 1 Ultra 6 quart model, on sale with additional percentage off (I paid $138 including tax and free shipping – at the time the retail on it was $179 plus tax). And I have put it through its paces. Soups, braises, hard boiled eggs, rice, all came out with varying degrees of success due to my learning curve.

The Good

• SUPER fast pressure delivery on recipes that usually take a long time.
o My Pot Roast (using a chuck roast) took less than half the time including prep, pressurization and depressurization of the device.
• The “Sauté” feature allows you to brown meat, sauté onions and garlic before the pressure cooking starts to build your flavor ladder. So, when making a braise using the slow cook features you have one less pan to wash.
• Push button cooking that even a novice can master with great results.
• Easy clean up because its stainless steel interior pot can go in the dishwasher.
• There are TONS of blogs with recipes, a Facebook community with ideas, recipes and tips from fellow users, and the Instant Pot website is packed with info.
• I was able to give away my standard sized Crock-Pot, my rice cooker and my stove top pressure cooker.
• Comprehensive recipes on the Instant Pot website that are easy to riff on if you are an intermediate to highly skilled cook.

The Bad

• It takes up a LOT of space in a cabinet or you have to leave it on the counter. Friend Nancy says she intentionally leaves it on the counter so she KNOWS she’ll use it often. I have enough shit on my counters, so it’s taking up some real estate in a cabinet.
• If you have been following along, you know that The Hubs has a rule for me regarding the kitchen. I am not allowed to bring anything new in unless I have a space for it. So there was THAT challenge.
• The recipe book and owner’s manual that come with it are crappy, vague and not really helpful other than getting you started.

The Ugly

• It’s pretty pricey depending on what model you get.
• There are so many to choose from, knowing WHICH one is best for YOUR household can be tricky. I opted for less volume (6 qt over 8 because we are a small household) and lots of options for more flexibility. For more info on which model might best suit you and your household, check out this article with plenty of details on ALL of the models.
• The inner silicone seal in the lid that allows for the pressure cooking takes on the odor of whatever you cooked last. It doesn’t matter how you clean it. I’ve tried baking soda soak, vinegar, hot water…nothing worked. The odor doesn’t transfer to what you are currently cooking, but it’s there when you start. I worry about cooking curry in the Instant Pot because we all know how that odor lingers in the air.
• It offers a “delay” feature to set up and start at a later time. I worry about use of this when cooking proteins because of food born bacteria that will cause food poisoning. I SUPPOSE they could be killed during the pressure cooking, but I don’t want to take that chance and frankly neither should you.

After several trials, I have come up with this recipe that is changeable to meet your needs. See the notes at the bottom for tips and changes noted with *. There are no pics because this really doesn’t photograph well, but trust me, it’s delish. Read through the recipe and notes before you start so you have a handle on timing, procedure and substitution options.

Chicken and Wild Rice Instant Pot Recipe

Serves 4 with leftover rice
About an hour total time – 30 minutes active
Gluten free and dairy free
Skill level – EASY!

2 Tbsp Olive Oil
4 Bone in, skin on chicken thighs*
Kosher salt and pepper
½ C dry white wine*
1 small onion, diced finely
1 rib of celery, finely chopped
1 medium carrot, finely chopped
3 – 4 garlic cloves, minced
2 C brown and wild rice blend*
2 ½ C chicken or vegetable stock
4 – 6 oz button mushrooms – sliced if large, quartered if small
1 tsp paprika
1 tsp dried thyme or 2 sprigs fresh
2 tsp ground marjoram

1. Liberally salt & pepper the chicken. Using the sauté feature, heat the olive oil until shimmering. Working in batches, brown the chicken (skin side down first). When they release easily from the pan, it’s time to flip or remove. If you WAIT (not my strong suit) they will be beautifully golden browned. If you don’t, the skin will stick to the pan and come off the chicken.

2. While the chicken is browning, prep your vegetables as indicated, keeping them separate from each other because they will be added to the pot in the order listed above.

3. When chicken is browned, remove from the Instant Pot and set aside on a plate.Deglaze the pot’s bottom with the wine, scraping up the fond (the little delicious browned bits sticking the bottom of the pan). Reduce the wine by half. Add the onion and cook until translucent, then add celery and carrots. Cook a minute or two and then add garlic, again cooking another minute. Salt your veg and stir.* DO NOT add the garlic with the other veg as it cooks a lot faster and you will end up with a bitter burned taste…Remember you are building a flavor ladder.

4. Stir in the rice so it is well incorporated to the veg mixture and coated with the oil and wine. Salt your rice and stir*.

5. Add the chicken stock and spices, stir well. Top with the mushrooms and finally with the chicken, skin side up. (The above procedure should take about 30 minutes. Coincidentally, that is the preset time for the sauté feature on the Instant Pot).

6. Select “Pressure Cook” and set the timer for 22 minutes on high. Once the device reaches proper temp, the timer will start to count down. Because the pot is already hot it will take less time than starting it cold. You can walk away at this point and do something else.

7. When the timer goes off, set a timer and wait 5 minutes. Hit your quick release button and vent the device avoiding the steam so you don’t get burned. When the pressure button drops, open your Instant Pot and serve.

Notes:
• You can substitute boneless, skinless thighs or breasts, but it won’t have as much flavor and it will not be as moist. Bonus – the bone-in thighs are usually cheaper. If you do go with a skinless option, add another Tbsp. of oil to compensate for the moisture loss. Do not reduce the pressure cooking time because the rice takes 22 minutes.
• You may sub additional chicken or veg stock for the wine
• Find brown and wild rice blend in the bulk dept. of your grocery store. You CAN use regular brown rice, but the texture is better with the blend
• When I say “salt your veg” or “salt your rice” I mean add a HEALTHY pinch of salt – about 3 fingers worth (index, middle and ring finger with your thumb). Trust me. If you add salt AS you are cooking your food will not taste salty, it will just taste like you know what you are doing. Adding all the salt at the end of a recipe is what makes it taste salty.
• If using fresh thyme, pick out the stems before serving.

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Happy New Year! Don’t Drink & Drive

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Thank you for following my food adventures this year and I look forward to sharing new ones in 2018. Your continued reading is the drive I need to keep posting. When you enjoy the post, share, comment and “like” it and of course, subscribe with the easy button at the bottom. Like many others, I reflect on the past today and am grateful for the possibility of a new beginning tomorrow.

Just a few of the great food experiences that I enjoyed in 2017

2017 has been a rough one for many communities across the country and the world. We have seen mass shootings, intense, destructive weather and raging forest fires just in the past few months. Those tragedies have shown us our strength as citizens and humans. I personally witnessed the outpouring of love, care and community here in Vegas after the Route 91 shooting. I saw people lined up for hours to donate blood for the victims, restaurants and companies banding together to donate food to feed the relief workers and families, and clergy and therapists donating their time for grief counseling. Through the news, I have seen the same sense of community demonstrated across this country in ways great and small. We ARE stronger together.

We will be celebrating at home with some of our nearest and dearest playing Cards Against Humanity in our PJ’s. For years we had a Black & White themed NYE party, and have since abandoned that tradition in favor of something more relaxed.

Please be safe. DO NOT drink and drive!

If you are heading out for your revelry, please be safe. DO NOT drink and drive! There are so many options available to you to preserve your life and the lives of those around you. DO NOT be a statistic. If you really don’t care about yourself that much, please think of the rest of us that might have to drive on the roads with you.

While these may cost some money, trust me when I say they are definitely cheaper than a funeral or a DUI conviction. Here is a list of safe alternatives:

  • Choose a designated driver – If you have a friend who is on a cleanse or is simply not a drinker, offer to pay for their food & bev if they drive your drunk ass around.
  • Lyft or Uber to and from your destination – beware of “surge pricing”. You can walk a couple of blocks away from a busy event and get a better price.
  • Get a hotel room and sleep it off
  • Call a cab
  • Many cities are offering free rides on public transportation services – including Vegas, Chicago, Denver and many others. Check your city’s mass transit website for details in your area.
  • AAA – Tipsy Tow – 1-800-AAA-HELP  First 10 miles free – check here for availability in your area. They tow your car and drive your drunk ass home.
  • Stear Clear – download this app – they will drive your drunk ass AND your car home!

Wishing you all safe and happy celebrations tonight and a healthy and prosperous New Year!

Don’t Be a Jackass – Guest & Host Etiquette

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Recently I have received a bunch of questions via messenger regarding etiquette rules. I have to chuckle each time I get one of these questions. Who do they think I am, Emily Post? While I am no expert on anything, I DO try to have decent manners and try to adhere to basic etiquette guidelines. Keep in mind that etiquette changes drastically with the times and what was appropriate at one time, are now seen as affectations or bizarre – calling cards, gloves, and hats for example, and THIS thank goodness. Still, some things never go out of style. When in doubt, bring flowers because as Uncle John says, “bitches love flowers”. I have addressed this topic before. Click here and here. This one is a little more tongue in cheek and peppered with foul language. Consider yourself warned. And just because I love Colin Firth, enjoy this on how NOT to behave.

I’ve put on my prettiest Miss Manners hat and here is some of MY etiquette Q&A for you. Many of these are real questions people asked me, except the last one. Disclaimer – Miss Manners would never use foul language and these are NOT her answers.

Bubbles are always nice! (photo from Unsplash)

Q – I’ve been invited to a dinner party. What should I bring?

A – It depends on the party and the host. If it is a catered or planned event, don’t fuck up the menu by bringing a dish the host will feel obligated to serve. A bottle of wine* (something with bubbles is extra nice), a potted plant/herb, or flowers are thoughtful choices. If it’s a potluck, work within the meal’s theme and find out whether the host needs an appetizer, side, main or dessert to round out the party.

Q – While traveling, we’ll be visiting several friends’ homes. I don’t want to pack extra stuff, so how do I handle proper Host gifts?

A – Politeness and etiquette dictate that as an overnight guest you gift your host with a little something. Once at your destination, hit up a liquor store* or florist for above mentioned gifts. Alternatively, when you get home, send something special from your neck of the woods (this can also be done in advance). You can also keep an eye and ear open for things your host might find useful. Friend Lisa stayed with us over Thanksgiving weekend and a GORGEOUS new red tea kettle arrived in the mail a few days after her return because she knew I had been looking for a new one.  And send a handwritten thank you note because everyone likes to get snail mail that isn’t a bill!

Remember “Bitches Love Flowers” is Uncle John’s etiquette rule for every occasion. Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

Q – I am frequently invited to parties, I always ask “What can I bring?” and I am always told nothing. What does etiquette dictate I do?

A – Find your hosts’ fave resto and get them a gift certificate so they can enjoy after your departure. EVERYONE appreciates food & drink! This works really well for when you are travelling. Also, see Uncle John’s rule above.

Photo by Nino Ubezio on Unsplash

Q – I hosted a sit down dinner party and one of the guests arrived 90 minutes late with no apology or excuse. Do I ever have to invite them again?

A – FUCK NO! That bitch is off the list. Had it been a “drop in” or casual affair, tardiness would have been permitted. When I extend an invite for, “Cocktails at 6 and dinner at 7” and a guest shows up THAT late (with no prior notification, apology or decent excuse) they never get another invite from me…for anything. And for the record, you aren’t obligated to invite anyone to anything you host. Guests – if you KNOW you are going to be late, a simple text, call or FB message is enough to grant you forgiveness in most cases. And guest – make your apologies as far in advance as possible to honor your hosts’ and the other guests’ time.

Q – I was invited to a dinner at a friend’s house for “Cocktails at 6, dinner at 7:30”. I was on time and dinner wasn’t served until 9! Can I just show up late next time?

A – FUCK NO! Maybe your host had a recipe issue, appliance issue or something else too embarrassing to share with the guests. If it really pisses you off, the best option is to let the host know you’ll miss cocktails and be in time for dinner (see above about letting the host know you’ll be late).

Q – At my party, an inebriate got WAY out of line, making some guests uncomfortable. I am embarrassed and don’t want to invite them back for another event. Because we share many mutual friends, am I obligated to include them?

A – FUCK NO! It’s your house! You aren’t obligated to invite ANYONE to anything. That being said, if you are close friends with this person, you should tell them their behavior was out of bounds, and explain why you were embarrassed. If you aren’t close friends that could be an awkward conversation so use your best judgment. Let me repeat, you aren’t OBLIGATED to include ANYONE for ANY event EVER.

 

Q – I RSVPed to an event and have since gotten a better invitation. Can I politely back out of invitation #1?

A – Only if you want to be an excellent example of an etiquette Jackass! Both hosts thought enough to include you, but #1 asked first and YOU ACCEPTED! Don’t be THAT PERSON! In this day of social media pics everywhere, your cancellation could really hurt host #1’s feelings (and let’s face it, etiquette and manners are all about not hurting someone’s feelings). If possible, go to BOTH events! Let host #2 know you will be late, let host #1 know you’ll have to leave early. EXCEPTION #1 – etiquette dictates weddings trump everything. If you RSVPed to a wedding you go, barring a true emergency, because the happy couple has probably already paid for your meal. If you get a wedding invite after RSVPing to an event, call host #1 and beg off citing the wedding invite – they will understand. EXCEPTION #2 – if Event #2 is work related, call Host #1 and explain that you won’t be able to attend.

Q – I received an invitation that says “Adults only – no kids please”. Can I bring my infant?

A – In most cases no. The invitation is pretty fucking clear. EXCEPTION – if you are a nursing Mom with an infant (and I do mean INFANT – not toddler), call and ask if it’s ok to bring the baby BECAUSE you are nursing. Years ago, I had to do this when I was invited to a wedding and Jack was just a couple of weeks old. The Happy Couple said yes, so I went. John would have attended the wedding without me had the answer been different. I’ve had to turn down an out of town wedding invite because I couldn’t bring my school aged son and I had no one to watch him. I was sad to have missed it, but sent a gift anyway. I had several people not attend my own wedding because of my “no kids” policy. And Hosts – don’t be afraid to stand your ground on this issue – it’s YOUR event!

Q – Several of my guests brought lovely Host Gifts to a party I hosted recently. Are thank you notes warranted?

A – No. The gifts you received were “thank you” gifts to you for your hospitality. It’d be like writing a thank you note for a thank you note. Ya dig? Where would it ever end?

Q – My guests didn’t bring me Host Gifts? Should I invite them back?

A – Don’t be an asshole! If you invited them because you thought they would bring you gifts, you included them for the wrong reason, you asshole! If you enjoy their company, their presence should be gift enough.

 

*Know your audience! Don’t bring wine or other alcohol to the home of someone who doesn’t drink. Sparkling Cider works really well too!